I see a lot of people who are terrified of being alone. Their sole objective is to surround themselves with friends. Only then can they feel validated and secure. What happens if you are alone for two hours, I ask. I feel scared, I can’t handle my thoughts, they tell me. Well, there lies the problem. Create a life you don’t need to escape from through other people. Practice sitting alone in a room with your thoughts for an hour every day. If you cannot find peace within, you will not find it outside. You will simply use people to satisfy your needs the way people drink water or consume food. That is not a healthy way to be – for yourself or others.
Yes, man is a social animal. We need people. But we cannot use people as bricks to make the house of our soul. Every person has to make their own soul, all by themselves in a room. Soul-making is not a social activity. It is a solitary activity. If people like the soul you have made for yourself, treat it as a bonus. But most of all, construct the beautiful soul by yourself, and for yourself.
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